Saturday, August 4, 2012

Can't We All Just Get Along?

“If it is possible, as much as depends on you, live peaceably with all men.” (Romans 12:18)

Don’t you just hate to be in the middle of a conflict? Or how about living in a home where there is strife and tension? I don’t know about you, but I desperately want to live in a tranquil environment.  I admit it – when all is said and done, I’m a peacemaker!

That being said, I realize I can’t always control my surroundings, but I surely have a pivotal role to play in how I relate to others when peace becomes elusive.  But what happens when peace is lacking in our family, personal and work relationships?  How is it possible to keep the peace then?

When we endeavor to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace (Ephesians 4:3), we have done so without offending God and wounding our conscience.  

We have a dire responsibility –a holy charge if you will – to be at peace with all men, but especially in the Lord’s house.  This charge conveys the urgency of nothing being left undone on our part, in order to preserve that peace.   If you want to focus your worship on God, you’ll have to make peace with your fellow man.  

In Matthew 5:23 Jesus says, “Therefore, if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way.  First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.”  He declared that when you are rightly related to God, you will do things differently from the world’s ways.  Jesus had just taught the famous sermon on the mount to the multitudes that surrounded Him on the hillside, including the beatitude; “Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called the sons of God.”

Why are the peacemakers blessed?  Because they are submitted to God – under His mighty hand – useful for the Kingdom. They have rightly rejected their right to their own way.  They have peaceably humbled themselves unto God (James 4).

Hebrews 12:14 instructs us to, “Pursue peace with all men, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord: looking diligently lest anyone fall short of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up cause trouble, and by this many become defiled…” 

Peace and holiness go hand in hand.  Proverbs 4:23 declares, “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”   Psalm 24 says, only “he who has clean hands and a pure heart” can stand in the presence of God.

Preserving peace often entails a sacrifice on your part.  Sometimes it means “biting your tongue” and swallowing unpleasant words to keep from spewing them out.  We are told to impart grace to the hearers (Ephesians 4:29), and season our speech with salt, knowing how to answer those who are curious about our walk with the Lord, thus encouraging dialog in a peaceful manner.  Remember, we are still a “work in progress” and in the process of sanctification.

In the book of Romans, Paul addresses the believers in Rome concerning their Christian duty to God, to themselves, and to their fellow man.  After teaching on the believer’s position in Christ, he exhorts them to live a transformed life, thus bringing glory to God.  Beginning in Chapter 12, verse 1, Paul pleads with them to lay down their lives on the altar, as it were, for the sake of Christ.  By giving over their own bodies as sacrifices, they would relinquish any right to their own destiny or desires.  Their offering is purely voluntary, and thus, honoring to God.

The great bible commentator, Matthew Henry had this to say about the Romans passage: “Study the things that make for peace... peace without purity is the peace of the devil’s palace.”

Faith and patience will enable you to follow after peace and holiness.  Be sure to never discard a conviction, if God brings to mind something that He wants you to do to foster peace in a situation.  Don’t have an obstinate attitude – realize that you will be held accountable to God for dismissing a perfectly good solution to “making peace” with your brother.

Finally, here are four (4) brief things to keep in mind with regards to living in peace…

Don’t be judgmental
Pick your battles wisely
Look for common ground
Always defer to the Holy Spirit’s leading

Remember, others are depending on you to be a peacemaker… If you are God’s child, you have all you need to be successful within God’s sovereign plan.  Make it a point to do all you can to foster true peace, that your spouse would recognize your efforts and God would receive all the glory!

Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”.  It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit



  1. Deborah, those are very true, and needed words. I particularly love the Ten Ways to Love. Those are words to live by, putting into practice the First and Second commandments.

  2. Hi Cecilia. So good to see you here my friend. Peace is often elusive in the world, but thank God - Jesus has overcome the world, Amen? I just loved the Ten Ways to Love too! :)

  3. I hate conflicts so much, and though it can be difficult when the flesh keeps yelling. But what keeps motivating me is my desire to please God always, I really do work towards pleasing Him.
    Peace is far better than war!
    Thanks for this post Deborah, keep sharing!

    1. I wholeheartedly agree Ugochi. Pleasing God is what ultimately counts. When I do that - I'll have peace within myself and my home. Thanks so much for sharing :)

  4. Thank you i needed that so much and what perfect timing!
    God Bless You
    sister in Christ, Jessica
    See my sister is saved, she accepted the Lord into her heart but has not grown, now im here to help that. Her boyfriend, yes they are living in sin needs Jesus so bad, Being brought up in catholic school he wants nothing to do with God. Its like im looking in a mirror at myself, Ive been where shes been with this weakness of insecurity. Im trying to just keep the peace but we are staying with them, im taking care of her boys while they do their pilot car business. So this is the first trial ive had since i been here, just acouple of months. I know my bby son are supposed to be here and we are about to move with them to a bigger place in the country and the enemy wants to steal that away. I cant let that happen, please pray for this thank you

    1. I will keep your sister and boyfriend in my prayers for God to supernaturally grow them in their faith. Jessica, you keep shining the love of God forth and be a light unto the darkness. Pray for your sister's eyes to be opened to His truth. Pray for her spiritual growth and resolve to serve Him no matter what. So glad this post was an encouragement. Please share this with her.

  5. Thank u so much for your prayers, things are ok by the grace of God.
    God Bless u and your ministry.



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