Okay… so you’ve run into
another roadblock in your relationship.
You and your husband have been treating each other to a less than
“civil” dialog lately and you’re looking for a place to broadcast it. Not a good idea…
One of the best quotes
I’ve ever heard regarding a hurting heart is from Joyce Meyer . Her advice
is to, “Run to the Throne instead of the phone.” It’s a simple concept: when you’ve been emotionally hurt and you
want some sympathy from your best friend or neighbor, run to God instead. He will listen without prejudice and love you
without condemnation. Most importantly,
He will not just tell you what you want to hear. He will speak directly to your
heart.
Why – do you say – would I
not want to go visit my friend and pour my heart out to her? Simple
enough… Let’s suppose the situation is
reversed. What if your best friend
called you or ran over to your house to tell you the latest trash talk about
her marriage. What would you do?
Before you answer that
question – let me ask you this: Do you consider yourself to be a mentor to
someone else in your church, family or circle of friends (Titus 2:3-5)? Do you feel a greater level of responsibility
and accountability for your answers and advice?
Do you grasp for something to say, or do you prayerfully seek Godly
wisdom and direction first?
Believe me –
I’m preaching to myself here!
Though we can be an oasis
at times for others, we must point them to Jesus,
the eternal well of Living Water. God’s
Word quenches every thirst and satisfies truly parched souls. It holds the key to a fulfilling marriage - even when only one of you follow it's principles.
Back to the original
dilemma – You or your friend are fuming because of something that happened at
home. Maybe you’re still angry or upset
because it appears he just isn’t sensitive to your feelings. Somehow you feel that you’ve been taken
advantage of. You're getting tired of arguing over the same old things. Nothing ever changes – it’s
always your fault somehow…
Married life is so much more rewarding when we cooperate with each other. Remember, we’re on the same team!
Enjoy these insightful quotes about cooperation:
Cooperation is spelled
with two letters: we. -G.M.
Verity
Coming together is a
beginning; staying together is progress; working together is success.
-Anonymous
Can two walk together,
except they be agreed? -Amos (Amos 3:3 KJV)
We may not always see eye
to eye, but we should always walk hand in hand. -Anonymous
Here are some basic Biblical points concerning our husbands –
1. Men need to be loved and respected. (Ephes. 5:33)
2. Men need to be affirmed and appreciated. (Ephes. 4:29)
3. Men need to feel they are needed and have purpose. (Gen. 2:15-18)
That being said - there are times when we just don't feel like they deserve it...
This is an excerpt
from my book
Mission Possible – Chapter 4 – Painful Reality
Another area
of battle is coping with the daily changes that occur within yourself, and how
that interacts with your mate… Part of that is reflected in your relationship –
as a wife, friend and lover. There unfortunately
are things that you begin to dislike about him.
We are to “love the sinner, but hate the sin.”
There were
times I had to pray, “Lord, give me a desire
for my husband… help me to love him with Your love, because I don’t like him
very much right now.” Remember, you have
to “take every thought captive, unto the obedience of Christ” (II Corinthians
10:5). Give it to God and then you will
have peace. Isaiah 3:26 says, “You will
keep him [her] in perfect peace, whose mind is stayed on You, because he trust in
You.”
Just
remember that grace extended goes a long way to fostering harmony in the home.
Deborah is the author of a Christian
non-fiction book titled “Mission
Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their
spouse doesn't share their passion. It will encourage and challenge the
reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.
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I really enjoyed this article!
ReplyDeleteFunny how we can already be struggling with hurt feelings in our marriage and then often make it worse by running our mouths off to the wrong people about our own spouse/marriage.
The advice and wisdom you share here is much appreciated!
God bless you,
Brenda
Thanks so much for the visit Brenda. Oh - I'm right there with you girlfriend! God has taken a 2x4 to me more than once about keeping my mouth SHUT if I don't have anything nice to say...
DeleteI appreciate your encouragement :)