Showing posts with label Christian family counseling. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Christian family counseling. Show all posts

Monday, June 1, 2015

It's So Tempting...

Oh, how we love to bash Eve for succumbing to temptation – but don’t we all struggle with that one? 

Satan does not tempt us in generalities. He is far too clever for that. He likes to pick out something specific to hone in on. Take discontentment, for example. He will tell you that you deserve so much more, or maybe something better, and of course, that one particular thing you don’t have. He just aimed his poison dart at your “pride” and you fell for it.

The enemy of our soul delights in focusing his deception on our desires or needs that haven’t been met.

He picks the time and place of our temptation and sends us an “engraved invitation”, hoping we’ll reply quickly. He knows when we’re tired, hungry, upset, depressed, lonely or sick we’ll be more venerable to his deceit. He patiently waits for us to let down our guard. God’s Word tells us to “Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.” (Proverbs 4:23)

Satan loves to create doubt regarding God’s love for us. He did the same with Eve. This is what he told her, “Has God indeed said, ‘You shall not eat of every tree of the garden’?”  (Genesis 3:1)  He simply twisted the truth and got her to question God’s goodness and character. We must be careful to not fall for the same trick. God may have given you a personal promise or verse to cling to. You may be waiting for God to do something special in your family, or marriage, or with your children. Don’t let the father of lies trick you into believing his falsehood. He wants to destroy your trust in God and your confidence in Who He is.

We know from I John 2:16, “that all that is in the world – the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life – is not of the Father, but is of the world.”  Satan is the ruler of this age and our present world, and has been influencing the practice of sin since the beginning, starting with Eve. We must watch for signs of discontent and jealousy as we evaluate our circumstances. We must focus on God’s sovereignty and His wisdom. We cannot lean to our own understanding in matters pertaining to “the fairness of life”. We must believe God and His Word, and leave the results in His hands.

You may come to a point in your marriage when you were sure you heard from God about something, and then you didn’t see any evidence of God working it out.

You can be tempted to take matters into your own hands, at your own peril of course. We must surrender our desires and plans to be denied, changed, or granted as God sees fit. If through a broken heart He can bring His purposes to pass, then thank Him for breaking your heart.

I was tempted to contemplate divorce not long after my conversion to Christ, but God plainly spoke to my spirit, that for me, divorce was not an option. I Corinthians 7:14, 16 says, “For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband; otherwise your children would be unclean, but now they are holy… For how do you know, O wife, whether you will save your husband? Or how do you know, O husband, whether you will save your wife?”

Temptation is around every turn, and in every decision. You must stay strong and focused on Jesus.


                              Here is one of my favorite posts regarding your spiritual readiness: 
                                                      Spiritual Armor - Dressed for Battle

Another one of my past posts regarding temptation:  


Use His Word to diffuse temptation.  Jesus said, It is written.” So be it!









Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together. 


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Wednesday, June 4, 2014

A Tribute to My Dad on Father's Day

Me and my Dad - circa 1965
It's Father's Day...the first Father's Day since my Dad passed away.

I miss his smile, his sense of humor, his reassuring words. I was his firstborn. He played ball with me, helped me built a tree house, and taught me how to ride a bike. He gave me driving lessons in our VW bus on the Navy base we were stationed at. He walked me down the aisle my first marriage and welcomed me home when it didn't work out four years later. He was happy for me when I remarried and learned to love my current husband like his own son.

Dad's have a way of making us feel secure.

They are often the first to give their approval and help build our self esteem. They watch over us and often stand between us and a cruel world.

Not everyone is fortunate enough to have a caring, loving Dad. I was blessed to have him in my life for many years. Dad was just shy of 84 years old when he died. My parents had just celebrated their 60th wedding anniversary in December.

Our Heavenly Father will be your Abba (daddy) when yours is not able to. He loves you with an everlasting love. He will never leave you or forsake you. (Joshua 1:5)

Here is a link to my last post about my journey with Dad during his illness  God's Amazing Love

Father's Day is an opportunity to thank our Dads, husbands, sons, and others in our lives that have played a fatherly role.  Below are four of my past Father's Day posts that you might enjoy reading...





HAPPY FATHER'S DAY - Celebrate your Dad while you still can...








Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together. 


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Thursday, June 21, 2012

Building Something That Lasts


According the Webster’s dictionary – this is the definition of build…

Build:  to form by uniting materials by gradual means into a composite whole; to cause to be constructed; to develop according to a systematic plan.

In Scripture, God has laid forth specific plans with regards to building. From Genesis to Revelation, God’s pattern for building is perfect and comprehensive.

In Genesis 6:14-16 Noah was given specific directions and measurements for building the ark of gopher wood that would provide salvation for his family from the great flood.  In Exodus 25-27 Moses was shown the pattern of the tabernacle and furnishings according to God’s commandment.  I Chronicles 28:11-12 tells us that “by the Spirit” God had given King David the detailed building plans for the temple, its chambers and its elaborate furnishings that his son Solomon would build for the LORD.  Another example is in Nehemiah 2:1-6:19 where we see through God’s prompting, Nehemiah led the rebuilding effort in Jerusalem to repair the dilapidated walls around the Holy city.

What do you need to rebuild in your life?

We all have walls that are crumbling. There may be gaps and breaches in our marriage. We might have rotten beams and floor boards missing when it comes to our siblings or children.  There could be pesky leaks and water damage within our other family relationships. Some of us have walls in our workplace that are in desperate need of repair. Or, it just may be time for some serious ceiling and support restoration with regards to our Lord and Savior - Jesus Christ.

Timing is the key to successful building. Ecclesiastes 3:1-3 says “To everything there is a season, a time for every purpose under heaven… a time to break down; and a time to build up”.  Use spiritual sensitivity and God’s leading to determine when is a good time to “count the cost” and assemble the tools you’ll need to begin the project.
 
Many times we cannot proceed with repairs until we’ve conducted some self-evaluation.  Matthew 7:3 says, “And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me remove the speck out of your eye’, and look, a plank is in your own eye?  Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck out of your brother’s eye.”  Use humility while you conduct your inspection and honestly evaluate the situation before you begin construction.

I have discovered four major things we need to consider when a structure is laid waste or in major disrepair.  Prior to embarking on a “rebuilding or remodeling” phase – be sure you have the following:

PROPER PROVISION

“For which of you, intending to build a tower, does not sit down first and count the cost, whether he has enough to finish it- lest, after he has laid the foundation, and is not able to finish it, all who see it begin to mock him…” (Luke 14:28-29).  Proverbs 9:1 and 14:1 talk about using wisdom to build on. Godly wisdom and understanding are sure foundations. We are to build “precept upon precept, line upon line” in increments (Isaiah 28:10).  In Nehemiah 2 we see God ordained favor and supply from King Artaxerxes for rebuilding the temple in Jerusalem. Nehemiah stated that it was granted according to the “good hand of my God upon me” that all he needed was given them by the King.

EXPERTISE

“Unless the LORD builds the house, they labor in vain who build it” (Psalm 127:1). Jesus said in Matthew 7:24, “Therefore, whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock.”  Paul stresses using superior building materials in I Corinthians 3:11, “For no other foundation can anyone lay other than that which is laid, which is Jesus Christ.” Also, “having been built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Jesus Christ Himself being the chief cornerstone” (Ephesians 2:20) is the only sure foundation for any wall reconstruction.  Lastly, Peter tells us in I Peter 2:5 that we, “as living stones, are being built up a spiritual house” and thus part of the rebuilding efforts taking place according to God’s design.
  
PROPER TOOLS

Three tools that are essential in good quality building are:

  Godly character “But Noah found grace in the eyes of the LORD. I will establish My covenant with you” (Genesis 6).
  Godly wisdom & preparation – “Then Joseph said to Pharaoh, “The dreams of Pharaoh are one; God has shown Pharaoh what He is about to do…” (Genesis 41: 25; 47-57). Joseph carried out the Lord’s command through the dream to build storehouses to collect grain during the 7 years of plenty. Because Egypt was prepared, God blessed them during the 7 years of famine for Joseph’s family’s sake.
  Godly example & motivation – “You see the distress that we are in, how Jerusalem lies waste, and its gates are burned with fire…Let us rise up and build” (Nehemiah 2:17-18). “Indeed, I also continued the work on this wall. ..I did not demand the governor’s provisions because the bondage was heavy on this people” (5:16; 18). Lastly, Nehemiah prayed saying, “Now therefore O God, strengthen my hands” (6:9).

PERSEVERENCE

In Genesis 6-7, Noah spends nearly 100 years building and preparing the ark for the pending flood. It was a steady dedication and unwavering commitment to what God called him to do that marked Noah’s perseverance in the face of ridicule and scorn. 

Nehemiah 4:17 tells us he instructed his servants to work on the construction of the wall with one hand, and to hold their weapons with the other. They set their sights on the completion, and not on their enemies. He exhorted them saying, “Our God will fight for us” (Nehemiah 4:20).

Finally, take time to ensure that your building efforts will pass the test of time. Your goal is to have a job that will pass inspection and the "fire" test  (I Corinthians 3:12-14). By faith, continue building with the assurance that God indeed goes before you in victory when we build it His Way.








Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”.  It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion.  It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.  Visit


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