When we marry, we forsake all others for our husband. We are his alone. Just as Israel played the harlot and was unfaithful to God, we too can become “unfaithful” in our marriage concerning our allegiance to our spouse. Our husband is our gift from above – our completer, not our competitor. God wants our focus to be on our mate and our marriage.
Paul’s last point in Ephesians 5 is, “Let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” This is the point: women generally have no problem “loving” – but they often have difficulty “respecting” their husband. Honor and respect goes a long way in forging a lasting and healthy relationship. This applies whether you are both Christians, or if you are unequally-yoked in your marriage. God wills that the wife love and respect her husband.
The message that was given to the church at Ephesus in the book of Revelation was to the point and quite startling. Jesus acknowledged their works, labor, patience and endurance. He commended their perseverance, but He also reprimanded them for one important thing: they left their first love. He told them to repent and do the first works.
That got me to thinking... If you don't abandon your first Love, you won't abandon your second love (your spouse). Christ is the key to loving your husband in a way that brings glory to God.
“30 Things I Love Most About My Husband"
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Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion. It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together. Visit