The first state to officially recognize the holiday was New York in 1873. By 1890 it was recognized by all of the northern states. The South refused to acknowledge the day, honoring their dead on separate days until after World War I (when the holiday changed from honoring just those who died fighting in the Civil War to honoring Americans who died fighting in any war).
Be encouraged - you are not alone! There are many online groups and vast resources to help you in your Christian walk. Discipleship is an important part of your Christian development and maturity in Christ.
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