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Daughter of the King - born from above in 1989.

Deborah grew up in a military family and moved to Florida in the early 1970's.  She began her journey of creative writing soon after coming to know Jesus as her personal Savior. Her primary goal is to share her personal testimony with others while bringing hope and practical help through her writing.

Thursday, January 5, 2012

Great Resources for Marital Help

Since this is the start of a new year, I wanted to highlight some great reading material for marriages.  Whether you're in a Christian marriage or in a spiritually unequal marriage, these books have some great insight and wisdom from God's perspective.

For Women Only
This book was originally released in 2004.  Shaunti Feldhahn wrote  For Women Only, which became a best seller and conversation starter in many households. Then in 2006 she and Wanda King, under the guidance of LifeWay Christian Resources, developed the Bible Study For Women Only as a life-changing tool.

This is a statement from the author herself -  "Ladies, I know we're at different places as we start our journey together. Some of you are in great relationships, others in very difficult ones, and still others in no particular romantic relationship right now. Some women may find these revelations fun, fascinating, or convicting; while others of you may find them very hard to hear and even harder to accept."

I thoroughly enjoyed doing this study at our church and found it to be eye-opening and convicting.  I highly recommend it!  You can find it on Amazon and other online retailers.

Winning Him Without Words
Next on my list is a new book released in 2011 from my friends Lynn Donovan and Dineen Miller.  Winning Him Without Words is a unique and God inspired book for women living in a spiritually unequal marriage. They are both married to unbelieving husbands, and their desire is for you to thrive, not just survive in your marriage.  It is based on the Bible passage in I Peter 3.

This is from the Introduction in their book - "Each of the 10 chapters provides a key principle to thriving in your spiritually mismatched marriage. Near the end of each chapter, we have included discovery questions designed to help move you closer to Christ and discover practical steps to grow in your marriage. We know it won't be easy to look deeply into places that have lived in darkness for perhaps years, but the promise of freedom awaits."

I am still making my way through this incredible book. All I can say is, "Wow!"  I certainly recommend reading this one!  You can purchase it on  Amazon and from many other fine Christian retailers.

How to be the Happy Wife of an Unsaved Husband
This little book was one of the first ones I read when I gave my life to Jesus back in 1989.  At that time, there were few books that addressed living in a spiritually mismatched marriage.  Linda Davis wrote  How to be the Happy Wife of an Unsaved Husband in response to a definite prompting - a divine burden (as she puts it).

The Christian wife of an unsaved husband has a special ministry that no one else can fulfill. Linda Davis explains how to minister to your husband while living a rewarding life both spiritually and personally. Drawing from personal experience and biblical wisdom, she describes how you can be happy in spite of your circumstances.

This book gave me great insight into God's perspective on marriage, and how the wife in an unequally-yoked marriage can model Christ to her husband in the midst of their struggles.  This is a classic and one you might want to read for yourself.   You can purchase it on  Amazon here.

Mission Possible - Spiritual Covering
Last, but not least, is my book  Mission Possible -Spiritual Covering was written nearly 10 years prior to its publication in 2009.  The book was a labor of love for me and great care was taken in expressing the heart of God in its message to women who love Jesus, but their spouse doesn't share their passion.  I have added Bible study questions and self-reflection questions at the end of each chapter for personal benefit and growth.

Here is an excerpt from Mission Possible - Chapter 4  Painful Reality

"But as for me and my house, we will serve the Lord" (Joshua 24:15). How confident I was that soon "all would be well with my house."  Little did I know that years would go by with little change. My husband was a good moral man: he loved his family and was deeply devoted; he loved and cared for his parents; he loved and respected his in-laws; he was a hard worker, responsible, didn't drink, smoke or chase women.  "What a great Christian he'll make", I thought..."

You can purchase it from my website at Spiritually Uneven Marriage or on Amazon .

What are some of your favorite books on marriage or living in a spiritually mismatched marriage?  Please share with me your comments and recommendations!



  1. Deborah, I loved for Women Only too! Helped me understand my hubby better. And thank you so much for including our book in this list and along with yours. I'm honored, my friend, and so thankful God has put us in this type of ministry together. So many are still just surviving! Love and hugs to you!

  2. Thank you Dineen for your sweet words & encouragement. You and Lynn are awesome women of God! :)

  3. Hi Deborah, a book that ministered to me greatly is, Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage, by Drs. Michael and Chuck Misja. It ab"soul"utely encouraged me and inspired me to continue to fulfill my destiny despite the many disappointments. I recommend it immensely. Thanks for your heart for this particular area of ministry.

  4. I appreciate your visit and recommending "Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage". I'll have to check that one out :)

    God has networked so many in the Body of Christ who are in spiritually mismatched marriages. Thanks for the comments!

  5. Thanks for this list! these look like really great resources.

  6. Hi Michelle - so glad you stopped by! Each of these books is well worth the cost. Enjoy! :)

  7. Deborah, these are great books. My friend, thanks for listing ours there too. Sending a BIG hug. Thanks for all you do to serve the Kingdom. Love, Lynn

  8. Thank you Lynn - it is my pleasure to feature your & Dineen's book! God bless..

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