That is not a difficult question to answer if you are a Christian, for He has already given you one... God's Word is His Valentine to you and me. Not just any Valentine - but one that transcends our ability to grasp it's full impact. God's Love Letter is given to us for all time and for all circumstances. It is not limited to a special holiday.
God's requirement for us as His beloved is that we make Him our "first love" - wholly committed to Him. Our heart represents our core being. Loving God with our whole heart means our affections must be focused foremost and fully on Him first. Only then can we love others with the love He loves us...
Love is the highest form of affection. Agape love is the highest form of love according to God's Word. In your spiritually uneven marriage God wants to love your spouse through you, and that means even when you don't feel like it.
It is the volition of your will that will direct your emotional response. Decide now that you will show your love by your actions. Remember your vows: to love and cherish, for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness or in health... Loving your husband needs to be unconditional and intentional.
When I write these posts I can honestly say I am reinforcing my own need to hear this. I write and read these blog articles for my own admonishment and encouragement! I too struggle with emotions and the up and down feelings that accompany any marriage - especially when you are spiritually mismatched. There is often a disconnect - a drifting apart that occurs with regards to spiritual intimacy.
This Valentine's Day do something special for your mate. .Sure - give them candy hearts and a card. Make them their favorite meal and spend quality time together. Then give them something unexpected..
Give them a look in the eye honest thank-you for all that you have been through together. Men desire - no, men need our respect and love. Tell them that you’d marry them all over again – that they are just what God designed for you! Reinforce that through your marriage, children, family issues, parents' deaths, surgeries, illnesses, moves, remodels, and lots of other LIFE events, that you are totally committed to them!
What has touched my heart more than anything else over the years has been a consistent hand-written note in every Valentine card I receive from my husband, telling me that he loves me, and thanking God for me. This is a gesture of love coming from a man who has yet to make Jesus Christ the Lord of his life. How blessed I am!
In the book of Ephesians Chapter 5 commands us to walk in love towards one another. The Apostle Paul is teaching on submitting to one another in the fear of God. Husbands are admonished to love their wives just as Christ loves the church. Wives are taught to respect their husbands.
Give your husband a Valentine straight from God's heart... give him love abounding from a grateful heart established in God's Word - full of peace and grace!
Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion. It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.