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Daughter of the King - born from above in 1989.

Deborah grew up in a military family and moved to Florida in the early 1970's.  She began her journey of creative writing soon after coming to know Jesus as her personal Savior. Her primary goal is to share her personal testimony with others while bringing hope and practical help through her writing.

Saturday, May 21, 2011

Are You Making a Mountain Out of a Mole Hill?

“There you go again” I thought to myself “making a mountain out of a mole hill”. My husband had just “unloaded on me”, all because I wanted to spend the next ten minutes sitting on our balcony, looking out into the calming waves aboard our vacation cruise instead of packing.

He is not a procrastinator, and he wanted me to finish putting my dress clothes into the hanging bag so he could complete his project. Remember, men are task oriented, and they usually prefer only one at a time. His “task” was packing early enough on the last night of our cruise so we could enjoy dinner, watch the finale parade, and have fun with our friends before going to bed. Was his request unreasonable? No. What almost turned this “mole hill” incident into a mountain?

You might say I jumped the gun by retorting that I only wanted to go outside for about ten minutes and enjoy sitting on that balcony we paid for. It was probably the “tone of my voice” that he didn’t like, because he immediately ranted that I had already spent too much time on the internet, walking around with my friend on the promenade deck window shopping, and doing what I wanted to do earlier in the day.

WOW – I could hardly believe what I was hearing! My blood started to boil as I sent up an SOS prayer and slowly began to compose myself. If I ever needed the fruit of the Spirit to show through – it was now! I remember saying very calmly that I had only spent about fifteen minutes on the laptop checking emails, and I started grabbing my clothes and putting them into the hanging bag as he “huffed and puffed” around the room. I didn’t say another thing… I just packed.

I conversed with the Lord in my mind: “Lord, this isn’t fair”, I muttered… “all I wanted to do was to sit out on that balcony one more time”. I kept packing. I kept thinking about his unreasonable request at just the wrong time. I kept going back to his selfishness. Then the Lord spoke to my heart, “You can make a mountain out of this mole hill, or you can leave it alone”. I chose to leave it alone.

The fruit of the Sprit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control. So far – I only managed to display a few of them. Satan sure knows when to ruin a good thing, doesn’t he? This was the last night of our vacation that was an early celebration of 30 years of marriage. I had to do what I could to redeem the remainder of time we had left and get a quick “attitude adjustment”.

God quickened my Spirit to be sweet and defer to my husband on this matter. I decided as a deliberate act of my will to obey, and my body language improved as a result. I submitted to the Lord, and in doing so, submitted to my husband with a Godly attitude. When I finished packing as much as I could before we got ready for dinner, I realized that he was right to give me a nudge to finish up, and thus prevent a melt-down later on that evening. We knew that we would be getting up very early the next morning. His goal was to reduce our stress then by completing that one task that was on his schedule.

Below is an excerpt of Chapter 4 - Painful Reality from my book MISSION POSSIBLE

John 15:5 says, “I am the vine, you are the branches. He [she] who abides in Me, and I in [her] bears much fruit; for without Me you can do nothing.” God’s Spirit draws your mate to Himself. Your spiritual fruit is what is visible when you are abiding in and drawing life from God.

Your husband will unknowingly be drawn “to the things of God in you” completely unaware of God’s sovereignty in all circumstances. Your fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23) all serve to point your husband (unaware) to God. He will notice the difference, but not be able to pin-point when it happened or why. He might never verbalize the change he sees, but he will notice. Let’s not fool ourselves, we know we don’t live 24 hrs. a day with spiritual fruit hanging all over us – come on. Nonetheless, let us strive to display fruit here and there to pique the lost to curiosity ! Proverbs 31:25-27 says, “Strength and honor are her clothing; she shall rejoice in time to come. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.” Let us strive to be godly women of worth.

I ask the Lord frequently to help me to be the kind of wife I need to be in order to bring harmony and peace into our relationship. I have held my tongue, captured my thoughts, and given myself a swift kick in the pants on more than one occasion. I suspect I’ll face more trials and snags in our marriage, as does any married couple. I also know that I have a Savior Who loves me and guides me with His eye upon me. He will continue to give me the grace I need to display the love and gentleness that is expected of me.

And yes, my husband did apologize for his remarks, and I apologized for my behavior. I never did get to sit out on our balcony, but that’s okay. Our last cruise night turned out for the better because I listened to that still small voice of the Lord instead of the enemy’s lies. Can you relate to this scenario? Don’t make a mountain out of a mole hill. Give it to God instead…

Deborah is the author of a Christian non-fiction book titled “Mission Possible”. It is written for women who love the Lord Jesus, but their spouse doesn’t share their passion. It will encourage and challenge the reader to embrace God’s promises for their spouse and future together.




  1. Great post! I saw myself. I would have wanted those last ten minutes on the deck, and then had the melt down later when I was tired and still had to pack....Sometimes it is good to listen to a voice of reason...and my husband is usually it, when I'm not too stubborn to see his point.

  2. Susanne - thanks for the lovely compliment!

    Cecilia - I knew someone could "relate" (LOL)
    I am constantly amazed by His grace and willingness to commune with me when I stop long enough to listen!

  3. Another good post, Deborah! We all need to hold our tongues at one time or another. Saves later on heartache! :D

  4. So true Lynn. Thanks for the observation and the wee bit of help. (lol)

  5. Great post, Deborah! Loved the excerpt from your book. :-)

  6. You bless me Dineen. Thanks for the kind comments!

  7. I'm reminded of something I'd ask myself in a similar situation (and yes, I've been there too!) - "Is this the hill you want to die on?" Thank God we have a Saviour to help us through the dicey times!

  8. Thanks Laura. You are right! Which hill are we willing to "spill blood" on? Sometimes we loose a battle or two - but win the war! Choose wisely :)

    And yes, thanking God for His Son who wages warfare on our behalf!



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